Tis the Season to be Busy

I'm writing this on December 1. Although I started my holiday shopping over a month ago when I was doing my daughter's birthday shopping, too, I am still getting a bit panicky. I've ordered most of my gifts online through Amazon, Ebay, or other online sellers. What's getting me nervous is the thought of wrapping all those gifts that I did not realize were as many as I had originally planned to buy. The thought of my credit card bill in January is daunting, too.


But my major concern is finding the time to do everything and have some seasonal fun, too, both in rl and SL. As most Second Life residents know, it is a tough act to balance both real life and Second Life activities. When a very good friend decided to have her wedding in mid-December and asked me to be her bridesmaid, I was very happy and looking forward to the occasion. Now, after planning an engagement and two holiday parties in SL, as well as preparing for my rl holidays, I'm getting a little jittery. That's not to say I won't enjoy it. I will immensely. It's just that time goes so fast when you're older and, when you're a kid, you don't have to worry about buying and wrapping gifts, writing out Christmas cards, and fitting everything in between work and your regular daily activities. Add Second Life into that equation and things get even more hectic, even though they are lots of fun.

The winter season is actually one of the most enjoyable in SL, and you don't even have to worry about getting cold, although some of the ice and snow on winter sims can give you a little chill. Just turn your heat or fire up while you log on, and you're all set. Lots of holiday cheer abound throughout SL if you have the time to check them out or hold your own party. I guess the hectic pace is just part of the fun. No time to chill until the New Year.

Celebrations, Real and Virtual

I just realized I didn't post my usual monthly blog. Part of the reason for that is I had a very busy October. Besides planning three birthday parties for my daughter who just turned 6, one of which was on Halloween, I have also been busy in my Second Life helping to plan an upcoming engagement party for my friend who is getting married in December. A few of the wedding party members, friends, and neighbors got together the end of October and visited each other's islands to look at the decorations that were put up. Some were spooky; others funny, but all were creative. They ranged from halloween/fall rides such as a haywagon and haunted carousel, to piles of virtual leaves on which to jump or recline; a haunted house and graveyard where blood rained; and a cute pumpkin house complete with comfy living room and seasonal decor.

Celebrating in SL is fun and, while not as much work as in real life because the cleanup is so easy, it can still be time consuming. What sometimes takes the longest is shopping for items or trying to locate them in your inventory. And, of course, the big challenge is finding the room and prims to fit everything and coping with the lag once you do. But, even if you choose not to decorate your own place or are currently homeless, no matter what time zone you are in or what holidays or events you celebrate, it isn't difficult to find places that are selling decorations, holding dances or other events, or just looking festive. A quick check of the Destination Guide usually includes special seasonal sims to visit.

So when you trick or treat, eat your turkey, wrap gifts, go to a birthday party or wedding, remember that you can do all these things virtually, too. Friends will add to the fun. One of the most popular activities in Second Life beyond shopping is partying. Have fun. Immerse yourself. Celebrate!

The Best Laid Plans

I'm a planner, even though I'm a bit disorganized. This trait has carried over to my Second Life and, while it has its good points, it also has some bad ones. Usually everything turns out okay, but not always exactly as I've planned. And, like real life, Second Life, has its own unique challenges which can get in the way of best laid plans.

Take for instance two recent SL experiences of mine. The first was when I was working on an article for the Simseeing section of the fall issue of RezLibris Magazine. My collaborator and I had discussed covering a certain story but, as certain real life circumstances prevented us from working on it sooner, when we were close to deadline, we learned that the person we needed to interview would be unavailable. As time was very short for the deadline, we had to find another place to cover and completely revised our theme. I then could not get in touch with the owner of the sim for an interview, so my collaborator came up with the idea of my writing a poem to illustrate the machinima he would be shooting. The result was "Alirium: a Sim for All Seasons."

The second example of when my plans didn't turn out the way I had envisioned but still worked out well was when I recently threw a party that included a treasure hunt. The hunt was pirate-themed and included several keys and a treasure chest. I followed the directions on the notecard, hid all the keys, and added the prize to the treasure chest. The object was for each player to search for a key and then find the treasure chest. The person who did both first would open the chest and find the prize. Each time a key was found and a person took it, a copy would go into that person's inventory. That was how it was supposed to work, but it didn't. My treasure hunters found the keys, but the keys were not copied into their inventories. To make it even more difficult, the group chat that I had hoped to use during the game to keep in touch with the players who were all part of a group I'd created, wasn't working. Despite these problems, and my dashed expectations, all worked out well when someone found the treasure chest, told me where she'd found a key, and I simply transferred the prize to her. It wasn't exactly what I had planned, but it worked, and everyone enjoyed the hunt and party even though it wasn't perfect which just goes to show that you should never plan anything in too much detail in real life and especially Second Life.

I know I will still continue to plan, but I will also now be aware that those plans are just tentative, subject to last minute changes and improvisations. Isn't that what life is all about, after all?

Summer at Sesame

I've been pretty busy this summer and am thankful I've been better healthwise than I was last year (although, I've still had a few problems, but nothing serious). Between horse camp, pool parties, and playdates, my daughter has been busy, too. We also managed a trip recently to Sesame Place in Pennsylvania, my daughter's first overnight trip in a hotel. She had a terrific time. I also enjoyed it, despite how tiring it was. We spent two full days at Sesame Place and then visited the Crayola Factory and canal museum on the way home. Below and to the left are some photos from our trip. I took over 100, and my daughter helped me put them into a Cookie Monster album after they were printed. Now it'll be back to school soon and the end of the summer. But we have some nice memories and are looking forward to another trip (to be determined) next summer.

Only in a Virtual World

My co-worker at the library recently joined Second Life and is enjoying it immensely. She's experienced some things she could never dream of doing in real life, and I have had a good time (and have also learned) along with her, even though I've been living the virtual life for the past three years. In a virtual world, you never stop learning which is why so many librarians and educators have become involved. We now share a house on my island, although I recently put up a treehouse for her so she could have her own private space. She attended the barbecue at my house at which I introduced her to some friends and neighbors and also had a good time at the Ice Cream Social I had at Rainbow Gardens for the pet book exhibit opening for the Community Virtual Library's summer book fair. One of the highlights was spinning around on an ice cream cone merry go round. Where in real life can you do that?

I've also shown my new SL cohort, Twilight, the pleasures of freebie shopping and introduced her to midnight manias and lucky chairs. Where in real life can you sit in a chair with the letter of your first name on it and win a prize or click on a board and have a prize delivered to you if a certain number of other people have done so, too?

And where in real life can you create a memorial center for pets where people can add photos of their deceased pets to a pet viewer and view exhibits or attend events related to pets? Where in real life can you fly on a book to various spots that feature children's books with links to the works and the authors? Where in real life can you see or set off beautiful fireworks without the fear of any dangers or breaking any laws? Where can you buy a gown for $2 or a house for $5 or even get some for free? Where can you find events going on 24 hours a day? Where do you get to celebrate two birthdays, your real one and the date you joined SL (your rez day)? Where can you dress formal, casual, or even as a bunny or mermaid and always fit in? Where can you immerse yourself in your dreams and see them come to life? Where can you meet people from all over the world who can become real friends even though you only know them online?

It's been fun but sometimes a challenge explaining to Twilight how to change clothes (the importance of underwear if you're wearing a dress or skirt and are flying); how to eat and drink; how to join groups; how to open boxes, and how to flirt with handsome avatars (the last I think she picked up all on her own).

So now, Twilight is on a crusade to persuade other library staff to join us in the virtual world. One of my neighbors and a good friend in SL suggested we might get our own library island one day. I kind've doubt that. There's a lot of resistance and kidding when the topic comes up. If naysayers tried it, though, they might change their mind. Twilight even hesitated at the beginning, as did I. Now she is sharing a jetski with one of our neighbors, rope climbing on mountains, dancing by clicking on ice cream sundaes, riding boats down rivers, diving in my inground pool, relaxing on her bear rug in her treehouse -- all just the beginning of the virtual experience. And all it takes is an open mind and a computer.

Having Fun in the SL Sun

I recently hosted a pool party which was also a surprise real life birthday party for a friend in Second Life.

One of the reasons I rented land in SL, besides having a private place to change, was to also have a place where I could invite friends for get togethers. While these parties take a bit of planning and some work, they usually turn out well worth it because they are lots of fun. Add a nice music stream, decorations, and games for a group, and you have the makings of a good SL time. In this case, I asked a DJ friend to stream the music and my friend who happens to live across from my island to host part of it at his place where he had a great idea to do a fireworks show, too.

One of the highlights of the party aside from the swimming, dancing, bouncing on the bouncer, soaking in the hot tub, playing a beach ball game which didn't quite work but, hey, this is SL we're talking about, and watching the fireworks, most people enjoyed the Truthball game where we took turns answering questions about ourselves. Some of the answers were funny; some serious, but they were all a good way to learn about one another -- something that isn't always easy to do in chat or at regular SL meetings. One of the interesting things I noticed was how similar the answers were to the question about what brought people to SL and what keeps them here were. Almost all of us, and keep in mind we are a group of librarians, came here for professional reasons and are staying because of the friends we made here.

There really doesn't have to be a reason for a party in Second Life. Any excuse will do for a virtual good time.

Friends Never Leave You

I lost a friend last week and nearly lost another. The one who passed away was not a close friend, but I knew and admired her. The one who had a sudden emergency is one of my best friends. Both of them I met in the virtual world, Second Life. As I've written in this column before, that makes no difference to me. A friend is a friend no matter where you meet them, and when you find one, you are very lucky. It is not easy to find or keep friends in today's world with all our time limits, pressures, and other obligations. But friends are so important. They make a big difference in our lives.

Daisyblue Hefferman was a sweet and very talented lady who touched many lives. Her family knew what her virtual friends meant to her and contacted them when Daisy was taken ill with a serious stroke. When Daisy passed away, the community of librarians in Second Life mourned her with a special memorial service while her real life funeral was taking place, and many memorials were created to honor her in the place she contributed to with many innovative projects and which she loved so very much.

During the time Daisyblue was in the hospital and people were sending her get well messages and posting photos and videos of her work in Second Life to her Facebook page, Verde Otaared suffered a heart attack and had to have cardiac surgery to put stints in one of her arteries. Messages about her also appeared on Facebook. Fortunately, to everyone's relief, Verde pulled through and is currently making her recovery.

I learned a few lessons from this and also from my hospitalization last year for sudden severe asthma attacks. First, I saw the strength of the library community in Second Life, and this was far from a surprise. As someone commented during Daisy's ordeal, librarians are great people, but the librarians in Second Life are especially so. I also learned that things we take for granted such as our health and sometimes our friends, often our family, need to be our priorities in life. So many of us worry about such little things, although at the time they seem of major importance. When things like this happen, it opens your eyes. Lastly, I learned that friends never leave you even if they pass away. They stay with you as the fond memories you shared and live in your heart the rest of your life. That's the power of friendship, the miracle of the bond people can share whether it's for a short or long time, whether it's purely online, in a virtual world, or in real life. It's something you can't ever lose and something that needs to be treasured.

I was very touched when I attended Daisyblue's memorial and visited Heartsease Gardens where Daisy's plaque was added to those members of the SL library community who have also passed on. What a wonderful way to keep these friends close to us, as if they would ever leave.